"Not All Relationships Will Lead To Marriage,
Some Will Just Help You Discover New Music"
Abstract:
Young people are increasingly choosing cohabitation as a means of evaluating
their compatibility before getting married. The couples equally contribute to
the same while they enjoy the sexual romance, which helps avoid financial and
other unplanned exposures when living together with partners of the opposite
sex. This essay focuses on the benefits, drawbacks, and similarities between
cohabitation and marriage, as well as the implications for the partners and any
children involved.
Comparing the two reveals that marriage, as opposed to cohabitation, fosters
greater levels of social and religious activity as well as a longer-lasting
acceptance of accountability and commitment. Young adults with less education
and wealth, those who are less religious and less traditional, as well as
others, are more likely to cohabit.
These people mostly cohabitate to test whether they are suitable for marriage,
to test their compatibility, for financial benefit, out of a lack of courage to
get married, and to facilitate an easier breakup should any problems that call
for a divorce surface.
Introduction:
An unmarried couple who lives together for an extended period of time in a
relationship that is comparable to marriage but without the holy thread of
marriage between them is said to be in a live-in relationship. Only couples live
together in cohabitation, but they behave as husband and wife.
As a result of their close relationship and shared importance to humanity,
society and its laws must change together with society in order for society to
continue to advance without being stymied by antiquated laws.
In India, where only marriage is regarded as a sacred bond between a couple and
is assumed to be a licence for having sexual relations, various High Courts and
the Supreme Court of India have timely considered a variety of aspects of
live-in relationships and have attempted to understand and explain the
phenomenon.
There is no specific legislation regarding live-in relationships in the Indian
legal system, but Section 2(f) of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence
Act, 2005 "expresses some mild concern for the idea and states that a live-in
relationship is included in a domestic relationship". The 2005 Act's Section 2
(q) provides "protection for women who live with an individual".
Marriage And Live In:
Marriage:
Since the time of the Vedic culture, marriage has been revered in
India as a sacred union. In India, marriages take happen in accordance with the
Special Marriage Act's requirements or the personal law of the parties'
respective religions. According to the law, marriage is a contract between a man
and a woman, in which the two promise to support and live together. Marriage as
a concept has evolved over time. After the formal ceremony, marriage is
typically regarded as one of the fundamental civil rights. It has legal
significance and entails a number of obligations and responsibilities regarding
property inheritance, succession, and other issues. As a result, marriage
contains all of the legal requirements of tradition, exposure, and selection as
well as all of the legal results that flow from that relationship.
Live-In:
Many Western nations have a high prevalence of live-in relationships.
The definition of a live-in relationship is a living arrangement in which
unmarried partners cohabitate in order to maintain a long-term connection that
is comparable to marriage. The fundamental tenet of a live-in relationship is
that the prospective partners wanted to gauge their compatibility before making
a commitment.
Without solemnising marriage, a live-in relationship is a de facto
union in which a couple sleeps in the same room. Common law marriages, informal
weddings, marriages of convenience, considered marriages, and other names for
this non-marital partnership are used in the West. Even though there is no
legally recognised wedding ceremony, civil marriage contract, or civil registry
registration, it is a type of interpersonal status that is legally recognised as
a marriage in some jurisdictions.
The majority of live-in partnerships take
place in large cities. In a large portion of India made up of villages and
cities, such a practise is still considered taboo. Due to several factors,
including a lack of tolerance and commitment, there is a progressive transition
from the sacrament of arranged marriages to love marriages and finally to
live-in relationships.
Live-In-Relationship Is Not An Offence:
According to the Apex Court's rulings, if a man and a woman have been living
together for a long time and have children, the judiciary will presume that they
are married and the same rules apply to them and their relationship. In
Payal
Sharma v. Nari Niketan, the Allahabad High Court recognised the idea of a
live-in relationship. The bench, which was made up of Justices M. Katju and R.B.
Misra, stated that, "In our opinion, a man and a woman can live together even
without getting married if they wish to. Although society may view this as
immoral, it is not against the law.
There is a distinction between morality and
the law. In the case of
S. Khushboo v. Kanniammal & anr the opinion of the
Supreme Court has further provided a positive impetus to live-in- relationships.
The case of the prosecution was that the comment of the actress Khushboo
allegedly endorsing pre-marital sex will adversely affect the moral fabric of
society. A three judges bench comprising of Chief Justice K.G. Balakrishnan,
Justice Deepak Verma and Justice B.S. Chauhan observed, "When two adult people
want to live together what is the offence. Does it amount to an offence? Living
together is not an offence. It cannot be an offence". The court further said "Please tell us what is the offence and under which section. Living together is
a right to life", thereby referring to the right to life guaranteed under
Article 21. However, this position is not all binding.
The Delhi High Court, in
another case, observed that a live in relationship is a walk in and walk out
relationship. Justice S.N. Dhingra noted, "There are no legal strings attached
to this relationship nor does this relationship create any legal-bond between
the partners". The court further added, "People who choose to have
live-in-relationship cannot complain of infidelity or immorality as
live-in-relationships are also known to have been between a married man and
unmarried woman or vice-versa" The Indian courts have time again tried to
intercede in matters relating to live-in-relationship and opened the gates of
hope for the people. It is also mentioned that there was no law against
premarital sex or live-in relationships.
The right to life and personal freedom is guaranteed as a fundamental right by
Article 21 of the Indian Constitution. In Ramdev Food Products (P) Ltd. v.
Arvindbhai Rambhai Patel, the court stated that a live-in relationship between
two people who are not legally married is not a crime. Live-in relationships are
so permitted in India.
Issues And Challenges Of Live-In Relationship:
Although, the live-in relationship has been legalised and many judgements are in
favour of it, yet even now there are many issues which need a pivotal discourse.
Some of the most complexed grey areas that still need to be addressed amicably
are discussed below:
Oval: Societal & More Acceptance, Oval: Cultural Issues, Oval: LGBT Couple,
Oval: Gender Biased
- Societal and moral acceptance:
Even if live-in relationships are permitted, they are nonetheless frowned upon and seen as morally and ethically unacceptable in Indian society. Indian society is dubious of live-in relationships; therefore, couples frequently deal with a variety of issues, including rejection from family, difficulty finding a rental property, rejection from society, negativity at work, etc.
- Official Documents:
In India, there is still no category for a live-in relationship on any official paperwork. The couple encounters issues with their shared bank accounts, nominee names, insurance, visas, and other things.
- Cultural Issues:
India is known for its diverse culture and religion. The impact of globalization on human relations in our country has been unprecedented. The formally dominant family ties and values are witnessing rampant changes. Every religion has its perspective towards a live-in relationship. Anti-religion marriage is still a complicated issue and is only allowed under the Special Marriage Act, 1955. Live-in relationship is a step ahead, and Hinduism and Islam do not accept the concept, although Christianity somehow accepts it. In India belief, custom, usages, and culture have a significant impact on people's mindset (Avantika Sarkar 2015). Subsequently, acceptance of new norms depends upon the prominence of their belief rather than any law. The emphasis must be given to address the complications of antireligion live-in relationship, which is still a sensitive issue.
- LGBT Couple:
Most of the time, society is uninterested in helping the LGBT community and is unable to acknowledge their connection. Even in laws and court rulings regarding live-in relationships, there is no provision made for or discussion of LGBT couples. Even though the Supreme Court struck down Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code to decriminalize consensual same-sex activity, India does not recognize same-sex marriage or live-in relationships. There is still no marriage law for the LGBT community in the Indian legal system, notwithstanding the recent liberal interpretation by the honorable Courts.
- Property rights related to anti-religion and the LGBT community:
Inheritance and property rights are the main issues in live-in relationships. Presently, only Hindu law grants property rights to a child born into a live-in relationship, and even then, only to self-acquired property, not inherited property. Muslim law has a system in place for allocating property, and as of this writing, no attempts have been made to timely start a debate about it. Regarding both property rights and the LGBT community, there is no provision. The live-in partner of an LGBT couple cannot be included in a will or be gifted property. Without adequately addressing such impending problems and enacting the necessary regulations, there may be potential for deception and fraud as well as the possibility of domestic violence.
- Gender Biased:
The PWDVA of 2005 recognizes a woman who has been living with a man for an extended period of time as a wife, and numerous provisions, such as property and maintenance, are also in her benefit. Unfortunately, it makes no provisions for LGBT couples or males. It has been noted that men are frequently accused of sexual assault and taking advantage of a woman by promising a phoney marriage. In the event that it is in conflict, there is no stronger provision in behalf of men. Similar to that, there is no provision for same-sex partners being sexually abused. By codifying separate law on a live-in relationship, these delicate concerns pertaining to intimate relationships must be adequately highlighted.
Why Marriage Is Better Than Cohabitation?
Marriage is a long-term acceptance of responsibility where the spouses agree to
be devoted to one another regardless of the terms and benefits, as opposed to
cohabitation. This encourages confidence and personal safety. The lovers regard
their sexual relationship as exclusive and grow more devoted as a result.
Children develop healthy emotional relationships since their parents are
unlikely to divorce.
A child who lives without either parent is also more likely to experience
maltreatment as a result of their single parent's alternative relationship. They
might start acting out and perform poorly in school as a result, which could
have a long-term detrimental impact on their lives. Additionally, it is clear
that married couples have better financial situations than those who live
together since they always adhere to a shared spending budget.
In addition, those who are not married frequently may not worry about health
difficulties in a relationship and, as a result, may be more susceptible to
contracting diseases. Compared to married couples, they are more vulnerable to
death. Married people have strong social ties to their neighbours and their
churches, which is essential for (emotional) support. Non-married partners are
not permitted to use this privilege.
When compared to cohabiting spouses, essential elements of marriage like love
and commitment increase relationship happiness and enjoyment. Although
cohabiting partners may engage in sex as frequently as they like, their lack of
commitment to and concern for one another may make it less pleasurable because
they are even more likely to be exposed to infections due to their own health
issues.
Conclusion:
Respect for human rights is an essential component of a democratic system in a
nation like India. Every person is free to select the person they want to spend
the rest of their lives with and marry in order to start a family. Regardless of
its difficulties, marriage is meant to foster a sense of commitment. Although
marriage does not ensure eternal bliss, it does offer safety and legal status in
society. Individual rights and privacy are at stake as the live-in relationship
situation changes.
Even if there may not be many people who favour this practise,
it is genuinely feared that someday people may choose it over traditional
marriage. In the lack of legislation, India's judiciary has made a significant
contribution by its expertise in comprehending the issues associated with
live-in relationships and has maintained a neutral stance. Although the concept
of live-in relationships may appear quite novel and alluring, there are actually
many difficult issues that are likely to occur.
Encouragement of live-in
relationships under the current conditions will lead to issues like bigamy and
multiple partner relationships, which will rip apart our nation's social fabric.
The women in these relationships do not have the status of wives and do not have
societal respect or sanctity. Due to the lack of a legislation, women will be
more likely to be exploited in these situations.
One study found that because couples typically choose not to have children, the
likelihood of their being born is relatively low. Contrarily, couples who have
kids but don't stay together will harm the interests of the kids since they
won't receive the love and attention they need from their parents. Another major
problem is the rise in litigation over issues like child custody, support, and
inheritance.
It is true that society must adapt to the times as they change, but
in the name of modernization, it should not compromise with the moral standards
and traditions of the society. Therefore, it is imperative to inform and educate
the current generation about the true value of marriage and family. This is only
feasible if the parents respect their children's emotions and goals and give
them the opportunity to choose their spouse.
References:
- https://lawcolloquy.com/journals/PriyaV1C2.pdf
- https://www.iosrjournals.org/iosr-jhss/papers/Vol19-issue7/Version-6/D019762529.pdf
- https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2631831820974585
- https://www.indiafilings.com/learn/live-in-relationships-in-india/
Written By: Anshika Jindal, B.A.LL.B- 5th Year - Noida International University
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