There were days, where human being used to live in peaceful environment but
now the days have changed drastically. Now human being wants everything quickly
just to satisfy themselves and to impress others. I am not blaming any human
being for any moral hurt of sentiments; I am just trying to explain why our
society is becoming so modern and advanced that they have forget to teach
ethical values which our grand-grand ancestors used to teach.
I really appreciate how our country is growing and developing; however, every
coin has two sides. The society must be having bad picture also. I am just
trying to elaborate my views on what is missing in society which I have learnt
throughout my life.
Every alternate day we see or hear about negative news such as, Rape, Murder,
Domestic Violence, Divorce and other Criminal activities. Now a day, rape cases
are becoming like balloons, which pop-ups all the time in every corner of
states.. See here for latest incidence. (Gang rape which took place in Telangana
I would like to highlight some important factors which may be the reason why
pleasure for lust and rapes are increasing.
Lack of Moral Values, Lack of Education, and Lack of Restriction from Parents:
It has always been a dilemma that if a family puts restrictions on child, then
children can become much conservative; however, it is not always right. We
should learn from our life that why our parents were putting restrictions on
such acts which were harmful to us. Our parents have not taught us to live like
an idiot. In fact none of parents teaches us to do such acts which are shameful.
We, being a young generation, should understand the moral values and importance
of education so that we can leave an impact of our values to our generation. We
should understand why some people in the society are becoming so aggressive and
ashamed of doing shameful acts;
- Due to lack of moral values, we become so incapable of providing values
to our children which inversely results into crime. We are becoming so busy
in our ‘show-off’ life that we are not even trying to seat for a minute with
our child to give them a guidance.
Moral values are as importance as like a water. If we drink it, it will save us.
The restriction should be like:
- Due to lack of education, we become so narrow minded that we not even
try to think what is wrong or right. Education leads us to a great level,
but lack of education leads to crime.
No religion teaches badly about each other, no religion gives inequality and no
religion says to make fights. It is we who don’t apply the principles of
religion. Our religion is the best way to teach moral values and life lesson,
but we are becoming so busy just to get unnecessary knowledge which has no use.
- Due to lack of restrictions, we are becoming so open minded that if our
child done something wrong, we appreciate and tries to prevent it.
Restrictions are very important not only for girls but for boys also. If we
put some restrictions on our child, after some point of time throughout in
life, they surely realize that restrictions are indeed important.
- Where our child studies
- How’s their classmates and peers one.
- What he/she does in his/her free time
- Why he/she is coming late after classes or school or college
- What kind of friend circle he/she has
- Giving a time table of everything (like study time table, play time
table, extra curriculum activities, etc) and such other restrictions which
makes them feel that their parents are caring for him/her)
Giving Mobile phones to children at very early stage:
We are becoming so modern now-a-days that we started teaching our child, through
our acts and behavior, to use high priced mobile phones. The 90s kids are so
lucky that they have spent their child-age years playing outside.
Giving mobile phones at very early stage which results into bad use of
technology and internet; we cannot find moral values and life lessons on Google.
We cannot find even everything on Google. Some lessons are to be given by us
only to our child. Technology is most important for us, but it can be worst
sometime. Giving mobile phones at very early stage and not giving proper lessons
to our child, in result we will see that he/she is watching something else which
makes his/her mind into lust.
Please think about it, what I am trying to say.
Giving too much freedom to children just to impress the Society that how modern
Too much freedom is always leaded to a bad life. Have you ever realized why the
divorce cases are very high in modern families. Freedom is good, I am not
denying that, but too much freedom gives a signal of doing what I want to do,
whether it is illegal or bad, doesn’t matter.
Now-a-days the families are becoming so modern, that they enjoy their spare time
in pubs and bars along with their young child.
Schools doesn’t bother about sexual education nor they try to teach “Life
We always think that schools are teaching well educations to our child, but in
reality, they don’t. Our schools teaches us how to pass in exam, but don’t
teaches the life lessons. Some schools have so modernized that they gives
everything, but in return they charge huge amount as fee. Nonetheless, our
education system should give us the sex education at early stage with
restrictions, so that our children should know what is wrong and right.
Lack of communication between children and their Parents which led to
We are becoming so busy in our so called modern life that we don’t even spend a
minute with our child to discuss about his/her day. Without communication, no
relationship can grow, similarly our children also wants an attention of
parents. We don’t give time to child, which results peer-pressure effect of
their friends. Without our communication with our child, he/she always think
that what friends are doing is correct. That is the reason why school going
children starts drinking and smoking at early stage.
Highly Open-Minded Parents and they don’t even feel any wrong while drinking in
front of children.
To be an open minded person, sometimes to the some extent is really good,
because it gives a comfort relationship between persons; however, becoming too
much open minded person leads to wrong direction. The reason is, being a highly
open minded person causes less respect and less obedient person. Now a days,
children are getting too much freedom from their parents, which inversely
results doing what he/she likes by their own keeping in mind that parents are
there support irrespective whether he/she has done any wrong or small crime,
Unnecessary Show-off in society just to attract other people:
We have been living in this society since birth; we also have seen many people
around us with different background and culture. Earlier we used to celebrate
each and every festival with each other by either meeting in person or by giving
some warm wishes in person, but now, the situation has changed. People (we) now
prefer wishing only through either call or message. And to attract others, (we)
buy unwanted things just to use for a day and throw it on a corner of room. Why,
because we think if we look high class people, then society will attract to us,
but they forget to attract their own family.
And just because of showing off and trying to attract others, we gradually
becomes slave to each other and starts looking for young girl or boys in society
just to hangout, and then the unnecessary story begins. I hope you understand
what I am trying to say.
Seeking pleasure consuming alcohol which led to a path of Lust just for
These problems are mainly found in young generation. The young generation, are
becoming much advanced now a days. They mainly prefer hanging out in pubs and
bars. Always tries to attract each other either by spending more money on
unnecessary things (drinking out of over capacity) or seeking pleasure
However, I must say that the young generation (youths) are much better and much
capable in works and knowledge. We must appreciate the youth. My main concern is
about to the specific people in our society who can be found in corner of the
street or foothpaths or drug dealing point. The ratio of consuming drugs and
alcohol is becoming high in young generations, we must think about that.
Lack of good education and qualified member in family:
It is well said proverb that, “a well educated women or man can change the
status of family. He /she can transform a family from poor condition to well
We should observe that why some families are not well educated while some
families are well educated. It depends upon the mentality and thinking of
members in the family. But, education doesn’t mean getting a degree of some
professional education, rather it means the real education should create such
environment where the family should teach how to behave, how to live a life
I have seen many people around society whose parents say, don’t study anymore
and just work, get a job to earn money.
Giving too much pressure to child to work at early stage leaving his/her study,
will eventually lead to a dangerous life. Then such child starts thinking
negatively about the society / parents / people.
Very high impact of TV, Media, Crime Shows, Internet and Mobile Phones in our
This is the very important factor which is reflecting to one’s life day-by-day
now. It is proven psychology that whatever we see every day, our mind conceives
that deeply. Our TV shows (that particular shows which are created indicating
family issues), Crime Shows, Media, etc are all consuming our minds. Nonetheless
TV and all are good for entertainment, but indeed bad also.
Crime shows indicates how crimes are conducted and happens, however it also
indicates the criminal thinking in one’s mind. Because, if we see criminal acts
every day, our mind starts creating doubts and criminal thoughts, which
eventually leads to a crime.
The Media is becoming over rated now a days. It shows such things in such bad
manner which creates doubt in society’s mind. Media is good sometimes, it
creates awareness. But what is a point of showing a particular crime based on
Internet and Mobiles Phones, these are very good instruments in our life. It
helps to develop skills, provided it is used in a proper way. However, sometimes
technology becomes worst. Now a day, internet has become cheaper and most of the
children use high multimedia phones. And instead using such phones in proper
way, they start watching porn and other unwanted videos. Parents don’t even
bother about their child’s phones not even check what he or she is doing whole
day sticking with phones.
Online dating, chatting with unknown people, indulging in online adult chat,
sending nude photos, talking on sex things, sending porn videos and all, now it
is becoming common. Just think about the person who does these things, what kind
of thoughts must be in his or her mind. Obviously lust and pleasure.
Written By: Adv. Saheb Shaikh
- B.Com, M.A (Eco), LL.B, GFMP (Global
Finance), DCL (Cyber Law and Crime)
Mail: [email protected]
About the Article / Author:
I have written this above article based on my opinion and studies. I didn’t mean
to hurt any people in the society. I just put it up here what I have felt. There
is no direct or indirect whatsoever relation between any particular people with
me. It is general article based on my opinion and for the education purpose.