Teen dating violence is an increasing crime not only in India but across the
globe. Victims of Teen Dating Violence are not only girls but also boys.
However, girls are more likely to face dating violence. The main reason being
that girls are taught to adjust and remain silent even if the partner is
dominating or abusive. Thus, whether the girl is married or in a relationship
very often faces violence in some form or the other.
Teen Dating Violence means, physical, psychological, sexual abuse or
harassment within existing or previous dating relationship. It may be in person
or online. Online form of violence is via sending messages which makes the
victim feel uncomfortable, stalking, bullying
The Patriarchal society of our country does not believe in Domestic Violence.
According to the Patriarchal society of our country women who face violence in
any form must remain quiet and suffer in silent at the hands of their husband or
in-laws. A society which does not believe that violence among married couples
does exist, how will it accept Teen Dating Violence. Thus, many times girls
suffer in silence. Research has shown that around 10 percent of high school
students face dating violence in some form or the other.
Type of Violence faced in Teen Dating
||Percent of cases as reported by Recent Studies
Report of National Criminal Justice Reference Service
Violence in any form in any relation has an impact on the mind. Physical
violence causes injury on the body, whereas Psychological violence causes mental
harm. Various studies prove that teenagers who have been in abusive relations
during dating are more likely to face violence ahead in their later
relationships or abuse their partners.
Signs that you are facing Dating Violence
The person who is abusing is committing a crime, but the victim who agrees to
suffer in silence commits a bigger crime:
- Forces you to get intimate
- Restricts you from using birth control measures
- Accusing you of cheating
- Trying to control your actions, dominating you
- Stalking you in person or online
- Controls how you dress up
- Isolates you from your near ones, is very possessive, over protective
- Being jealous and insecure
- Keeps checking your phone, emails, messages without your permission
- Frequently disrespects you
- Blames you for all the quarrels that take place
- Has an explosive temper
Date Rape is an increasing crime in India. Date Rape is also known as
Acquaintance Rape, it means. When the victim is raped by a person who is
known to her/him.
Very often certain drugs are used in order to ensure that
the victim does not remember about the incident.
These drugs have no colour, smell or taste and thus it can be easily added in
Alcohol or other drinks. After consuming the person usually becomes helpless and
is unable to protect themselves. The victim feels dizziness, unconsciousness,
and looses its memory for some time. Some common date rape drugs are:
- Ga**a-Hydr*****ric Acid (GHB) and G***a-B****ne (G*L), and
Impact of Teen Dating Violence on the Victim
Relationship experiences have an impact on the teenagers. Healthy relationships
have a positive impact on the teenager’s emotional health, whereas negative,
abusive or violent behaviour has a negative impact them. Some of the
consequences of Teen Dating Violence are:
- Victims of Teen Dating Violence face emotional and behavioural problems.
They may face suicidal thoughts, feelings of worthlessness, doubt
themselves, develop a negative body image, isolate themselves from the
people around, slip into anxiety or depression.
- They may resort to harmful things such as alcohol, tobacco, and other
drugs in order to get rid from the abusive relationships and its memories.
They feel that drinking and smoking and consuming drugs will help them to
forget all that they have faced. This in turn has a negative impact on their
- When a person has faced such violence and abuse in a relationship once,
he/she may lose trust from relationships. They may face difficulty in
trusting their partner in the near future.
- People who have faced violence in their relationship during teenage life
are more likely to face violence in the relationships in future.
- Victims of Teen Dating Violence may find it difficult to establish their
identity as an adult, mingle with the society as a positive person, enter a
Today even in the 21st century Dating is considered as a taboo. Many parents do
not accept Dating as normal, and thus many a times the children are forced to
hide their relationships from them. Thus, when they are facing violence at the
hands of their partner, they remain silent and do not approach their parents and
talk to them.
Research has shown that even when the victim is involved in an abusive
relationship, they continue remain in it, reason being their immense love for
the partner despite the fact that he is abusive in nature and that that such
abusive or violent behaviour is normal, which is not the right.
According to a survey only 2 percent of victims walk out from an abusive
relationship. However, one must a stand for himself/herself and walk out of a
relationship when the other partner becomes abusive either physically or
mentally. One should not give permission to any person to harm their