Hi, my husband is in uttarpradesh and I am in chennai. I am working and not comfortable to go with my husband hence stayed back with my mom in the house which my husband and me were living. He comes alternate weekends to visit me.But never spends time. Now it is 1 year and he is forcing me to resign my job and come there for the reason to cook and take care of him and not go out anywhere. We had a discussion and told him strong that I can not come and he can search job and come back to chennai again.
But recently his relatives (two elder women) came to talk with my mother when I am not in house which my husband is aware of it. But luckily I came back home which my husband and the relatives does not know. I informed my mother to sit silent in her room and I spoke to them. They were forcing me to go with him resigning my job. They are giving the reasons as below:
Not having child
Not doing work for him
Why am I falling sick often
I should resign my job immediately and go back with my husband
I should not get in touch with my family members
I have to talk only to my husband's family and they are my family
They will involve in all issues coming inbetween me and my husband as they got rights to do that
If I need my family members then I should have stayed back without marrying my husband and why did I do that and spoiled his life
He can not leave job because he is earning more than me and I have to resign and stayback home as a girl because they are doing these all 50 years for their husband
All the above complaints they logged on me and my husband did not open his mouth at all. The two ladies where asking me such more questions which I finally told that whatever happens I will not go out the house and leave my husband as it is a love marriage. This is the second incident
First incident is the same 50 year old lady went to my brothers house to say that I should leave my husband as the relationship is not going fine which was complained by my husband.My brother got that lady to me and I spoke to her , she spoke to me as though understood everything but when came again to my home when my husband is with me she spoke differently complaining that I should leave my mother alone and live with my husband resigning the job forever.
They have given me two months time to vacate the house and go to my husband resigning my job. I dont know what to do, they have locked me in a way that either I have to live with my husband or divorce him .Please advice, as I can not go back to my husbands place leaving the job. My husband is playing double game , he said that will come back with me but in other way informed his family members that I have to resign and come to him. Not sure if the relatives is looking for the house to be vacated or vacate me from my husband's life itself. I really dont know why I should do that when I did not do anything wrong other than marrying him when all my family members got convinced that he will take care of me well.